Frank...with your permission, a brief hijack for spitfire. My med school required me to spend 3 months in a physician shortage area. I always wanted to work with Indians particularly SW (e.g. Navajo). There was an opening at the time at the then Alaska Native Medical Center. Took it and worked under thr PHS taking care of Eskimos and Indians between Sept.and Oct.'84...a true NY'er Northern Exposure cheechako.

To frank...the words above by Tamashii are powerful indeed, but must be balanced between setting boundaries, detaching and moving forward with your life. Do NOT confuse them with lingering, holding on and risking getting hurt again. Letting her go is the ULTIMATE act of love, as odd as this may sound. You already know that nothing else works outside of taking charge of yourself. Stay strong and I support your current decisions.
FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;