Hey you... just got back on line and I've been wondering how your trip with your D went. I *read* that it was a strenthening journey.
FWIW, and I don't want you to change your mindset or path, your H is so not done. I heard the tearful, sweet, it's just over speech too.
It may be... and it may not be. But right now his words are still script. You know what it is. He is trying to salvage the part of the delusion he's been living in to justify his actions in his own mind. In the end this delusion will still only be that, regardless of how far he takes it. I truly feel sorry for him.
Actions. He hasn't told D. That is LIFE CHANGING when you tell your little girl that "sorry, your mom is WONDERFUL, I'll always care, but gee, it just isn't worth keeping my family together to get rid of my piece on the side." Because he doesn't just get to tell her and be "done".
This will affect her perception of reality and belief in love and forever. YOU have shown her what love is, and she has been watching you. Don't cry, she'll be okay. But he is going to lose much more than he realizes right now.
And he's going to want it back. He is living in a bubble and by not telling your collegues and family, the bubble is sustaining it's fragile, dream-like protection from reality.
The arachnid will show her colors when after the "relief" wears off, after doing her bidding, the doubt, depression and bits of reality creep in. ... and I almost don't want to send this because I've never heard you doing so well and sounding so strong.
