Mrs. H, JA didn't think up having the money directly deposited into your account. If he had, he would have done it months ago. I suspect his lawyer advised him to do this after receiving your lawyer's letter. You've got an excellent lawyer and I do believe that JA is going to have to learn that he needs to do what the court has mandated.
I'm glad you were able to attend the shower. It's nice to have a break from all of the madness. Online courses do have a lot of work with them, but at least you can pace yourself and get them done in your own home.
I do hope that today finds you well. Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.