The crack in the alien armor is how I feel too. Something I said to a friend on the phone last night... that for the first time since... as far back as I can remember,... there was no "abducted" by aliens like he has been. He was more honest about things than he'd been for a long long time. He's still in "me" mode which is expected... and slow and steady is going to be the rule of thumb. One thing he admitted is that he doesn't do well "alone". Something in what Lisa's (One Day's) coaching session said too ... our spouses often aren't about to let go until there is a sure thing one way or the other... and that's what I had to show yesterday... I'm the soft place to fall... the sure, stable thing and the one who's ready to tackle anything that we need to.
When I first came here... I said I was stuck on which way to go with this... step back, or "try like hell". Sounds like the parasite's H is trying like hell, and that's working at his end too. So now I may now need to change gears and go to tender and loving which suit my personality better, and ultimately is more in keeping with the kind of relationship the H craves (and me too)... tender, lots of touching and togetherness. Experiment to see what he's most comfortable with ... carefully of course. And take things as they come from where he's at through the process.
Prayers and good thoughts appreciated sooooo much.
Thanks to everyone! Abbey
Last edited by Abbey; 09/07/0811:50 AM.
T:22, M:20 H:55 Me:45 H-OW PA: N/07 OW Jan08 Bomb:Feb/08 S: Apr/08 Back together Ap1/09-Sept/11 Oct, 2011, uncertain future/H is a mess. Dec/11 - Doin'friend mode. Some days are better than others.
