Yeah. It's been awhile since you've had your own thread. Not that I'm really glad that you feel the need for one **sigh**
I'm not quite sure if I'm unhappy "after" piecing. In my case, things went from piecing to kinda nowhere.
You've been more "lonely at night" than I have for a longer period of time (it's only been 10 months for me), but I got some of the same stuff as you. I.e.: No desire... Don't know why..
Well, now, my W does know why, and it's because of me.
The only reason I mention all of this is because I think that perhaps your W has left a tiny opening.
Dunno. You've probably suggested it before, but d'ya think you could somehow convince her to see someone professionally?
If she wants you to consider her as being sick, then it wouldn't be out of line for you to want her to "get better."
I agree with Z that these issues are always broader than just physical intimacy. But you can hypothesize, educate yourself, read all the books, and it won't change a thing.
I'll level with you, LAN. My marriage has been flushed down the toilet by counseling. But my W is still seeing a C, and all I can hope for is that this is all part of a larger process.
And if you really want to try some kind of new 180, maybe you should try to push her into C. Could backfire on you as it appears to have done for me, but the jury’s still out on my sit. Maybe… just maybe… my W’s C will help, rather than hinder.
