OK, Julia, you make a valid point in that if I am confrontational then the odds increase that we will have a confrontation instead of an honest conversation. So, perhaps I don't use the information to bludgeon her into admitting to her unfaithfulness, but, instead I use it go quell my fears of falsely accusing her. You see, since she has already lied about what is going on, why would she change her tune just because I asked for an honest conversation? I didn't ask her about the pregnancy tests. I made two extremely subtle hints about her doctor appointments after she had brought up the topic and she mentioned that they had run pregnancy tests and the VD screen. In my mind, that is a far cry from me asking her did this happen and her replying that yes it did.
I'm sure that I will have some time to think on these things before having this conversation with my wife.
(((Julia))) I appreciate your input and that your cared enough to offer your advice, thank you.
