In one of my many wide ranging searches across these boards I came across a post referring to the necessity of building Goodwill as the first step on the path to a possible future relationship.
Could you be over-reaching and thus not managing to get to that stage as she fears that there is always a hidden agenda?...what would be the reaction of your W if you did as I suggested above?
Again - simply ideas....
Best - GFI
Me: 40ish W: 40ish Together: 20 ish years Married: 10ish Years