NLT, I have been reading your thread this morning, I want you to know that I feel for you and can really understand what you are going through. I can really relate to what you are thinking right now, I dont know if you have ever stopped by my thread but it is so similar. It is strange when you read these threads and they are so similar to our own, I have to tell you quickly, there was nothing wrong between ex and I when he made the decision to leave, we too had been out for the evening, came home and he states hes decided to leave me, yes it too felt like my heart had been ripped out, there was nothing at all that I could see that had caused this, and there had definately been no clues or talks from ex although he did say he had been trying hard to make things work, he wasnt any different throughout though so I guess that was a lie. he also said there was no one else and said he wouldnt do that to me, he needed space and was going to stop in a hotel and look for somewhere to live, within 2 months,not sure how long it could have been less, he moves in with her, and I find it strange that she signed up for their house the day he left me, seems to all fit in and so does the amount of money he had used, within 4 months they were to be engaged and then married just 15 months after leaving, it is all so bizarre, he threw us out on the streets, my son and I. what I am saying nlt is the fact that all I wanted to know was what I had done wrong and how could he just walk away and act as if I never meant anything to him, he also doesnt bother with his only child for 18 months, they are so in a pickle nlt I fully believe that one day it is all going to get repaid to these men, they cannot do this to us lbs and children and not have some regret or remorse, but all you can do in the mean time is gal and do things you enjoy, you are doing a spot of home improvements it is things like this that help you get through it, sorry for the lengthy post I just found it fascinating that your ex as done exactly the same as mine. Dont forget nlt what goes around comes around, and theyll reap what they sow. hugs