Seriously there is just too much interpretation and misunderstanding. People read post wrong. Misread what they read. Then everyone freaks out...
Now posting here so much and explaining the crazyness of my wifes actions has further jeopardized my family. Is this site really like a to search a predator.
Which reminded me to do something. I did a sex offender search in our area. Turns out there is a sexual offender a block away from my wife, that is registered for offenses against children. I would love to text her that.
The post from Bworl about Never had was to me. Why such the long disertation?
What if I'm meant to be hers? Her example...
She's the one that needs to change!
I write and even ramble because I'm hoping that something somewhere will ring a friggin bell for you.
I'm no expert but I really don't hold out any hope for your situation under these conditions.
I do sincerely wish you well, though.
But my thinking is unless and until you pull your head out of your sanctimonious ass, a reconciliation will never happen short of your wife becoming a vegetable (God forbid) and having nowhere else in the whole wide world to go.
I won't patronize you anymore by wishing you luck.
I'm a broken man. Broken hearted, and she killed my soul.
I know that feeling! I'm sorry you're in that spot Phil. But, the totally unfair reality is... No woman wants a broken man for a husband. You want her back, Ya better get fixin' what's broke.
Hoosier, you are a manipulator of words and facts. I have not belittled anyone of a different denomination or used the Church as a weapon. You are certainly passive aggressive everythinng that spews from your finger tips contains the manipulation.
I'm sorry that you perceive it that way. But then, since you think I'm Satan, I'd say your perceptions are less than objective.
When you call other churches "chaotic," most people would consider that belittling. When you have to repeatedly keep saying there's only one church that has the truth, most people would hear in that that their church does not have the truth. That is also belittling. Your thread, your rules. And you certainly have the right to say whatever you want. I was trying to help you understand that your communication is painting the Catholic church in a negative light. You may see it as defending the faith, but most people would see it as arrogance and insulting.
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I can see why your heading for a divorce. You don't know when to give up. Then you twist turn, manipulate everything out of context. I have asked you to go away. No go away.
Nice, Phil. Have you read my threads? If not, then you have no idea why I'm heading into a divorce. On the other hand, we can all see why Phil is headed for divorce, if you talk to your wife the way you talk to us--and to read your quotes, you do. And if you deny the gravity of physical abuse, of which attempting to slap your wife, spit in her face, shove pizza in her face are examples, by the way. And if you blame her for your behavior because she "provoked" you. And if you have an ongoing unreasonable need to be right and be sure she knows she is wrong. And if you behave as childishly with her as you do on the boards--I'll reference your post to AmyC last night about "now I'm going to bed, because I want to not because someone told me to" because you're not 15 years old. Actually, that sounds more like something a toddler would say than an adolescent.
Actually, I'm not taking things out of context, I'm putting them in context all together. And it's a very worrisome picture.
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I really don't understand why you insist on confusing me.
No one is trying to confuse you, quite the opposite.
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No go away.
Freudian slip?
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
You are supposed to leave her be unless the contact pertains to planning for the children and then the contact should be polite, decisive and swift ONLY.
You are supposed to use the time spent leaving her alone to take care of and better yourself.
Unless of course you feel there is no possible room for improvement on your part.
In which case you can just keep on doing nothing more than bitching and complaining but not one single thing will change in your sitch except that you will end up divorced.
ps: suggestion. Stop sticking up for people. Let them fight there own battles.
Yeah ok, fix my broken heart. Move on... Let her see I'm healed without her. I think I'm getting there.
I do leave her alone. I don't call her. The last couple of days, I think was a last ditch effort because of the dream I had about her. I feel really good. Every last instance of interaction I continue to be calm and say stop acting this way or that way. Stop yelling at me.
I don't think any of that matters. She looks for any little fault. She was driving me crazy today because my son is with me instead of her. Now I don't make him stay. He even said thanks dad for not making me do what I don't want to do. If I want to stay with mommy, you let me stay. If I want to stay with you, you let me stay. I don't force them to do anything. He said mommy always does. She makes us go to grandma's, she makes us stay with her, she goes to work now.
He is friggin six years old and can see how lame she is.
Let her be... I am. I don't go running down her house panting at the door. It's about these kids and how she manipulates them to get what she wants, and how she throws them around like rag dolls.
And by the way, since hoosier brought it up... when I said "get some sleep, Phil" last night I didn't mean it authoritatively.
I only suggested it because it was late and you seemed to be getting stressed out by all the dialogue.
You acted like I spanked you and told you to go to bed.
Make no mistake, when I reach that point, you'll know you've been spanked, I won't care what your reply is and it will be damned worth me getting banned over.
