SL, I don't know if I have much advice for you. I just wanted to let you know that sometimes the boards are more quiet on the weekends. Weekdays seem to have a lot more traffic.
I do know that I feel the same way as you - my H is filled with pride and I don't believe that he will ever admit to being wrong. But I don't know that I agree that you are doomed and that you will lose him forever. If you read a lot of the posts here, you will see that some come back that were never expected to come back.
I don't know what else you can do. I figured out a while ago that DBing was good for me but not so good with my marriage. Not all will survive.
Believe it or not, you are fairly new to this. I would think that you still have some ups and downs to go.
I guess my advice would be to GAL for you - not just because some book or some board told you to. I would also be his friend because it is in the best interest of your kids to go this route. And as far as going dark - I have to think that that would give you some measure of peace as well.
Again - I'm not in a great position now to give advice. I just wanted to let you know that someone was out here and "listening". And that weekends are always a little slower.
