Ok, been there and done that....that is one of the reasons I am seperated now. The last fight we had was because of me assuming and reading too much into a message I saw on myspace. I got overemotional blew up threw all his clothes in the hallway and broke a glass...can you say drama queen!! LoL. Now that I look back there was alot of times that I did overreact just like you had and this caused distance between us among the other problems didn't help.
Hang in there. Go dark/dim and don't contact him unless he reaches out for you first. Give him his space. It may be a week or two but you are strong and can do it!! We will be here if you need support or to vent.
Hi sep. It seems you and I might have more in common that we thought lol. The biggest reason he got upset is because I flipped out at the club and it's not the first time.
D and I went up El Avila , a national park which is actually a mountain overlooking Caracas, this afternoon. We went to the "cascada" and it was nice. She played in the ice cold water and then we walked down. When we arrived xh was in our friends bakery. I went to get groceries and he stayed with D and then they picked me up when I was finished. We got along fine. He made a comment about the club. D wanted to go tomorrow and he said "I need a couple days before I can go there again". I told him I should be more embarressed and he said that it couldn't be like that.
So, I'm dark as can be but with D there is no way I can't have any contact. He's a very involved Dad. I think we'll be fine as long as (and this will be a big surprise to you guys) I can keep my emotions intact and my mouth shut.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
I think we'll be fine as long as (and this will be a big surprise to you guys) I can keep my emotions intact and my mouth shut.
OK so I don't check in for a couple of days then Jen says she is going to keep her emotions in check!? Alright I like it so how are you going to do it? Cheers
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M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Hey Daisy, it was a backslide but I pull my boots back up and go for it again I do know what I need to do. I'm not going to initiate any calls or texts that don't have anything to do with D or work. Today I never contacted him. I would have gotten groceries even if I had to get a cab home. It just turned out that he was around when we got back from our hike so I asked if he could pick me up. He had no problem agreeing.
Tomorrow he's going with D to a friends house to watch American Football and have dinner. I'm not invited but that's ok.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Coach...good question. I think it's mind over matter really. I need to control my thoughts a bit better to help keep my words as unhurtful as possible.
I missed you on FB a second ago.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
SO what gets you in trouble? Do you react? Get triggered by something? What flips the switch on you?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
