Ground Hog Day WAW #18

[The Wifey]

Hey Phil,

I think I get you pretty well. I don't judge you harshly, because I can see past the hard shell you project. I also know that judging you is not helping you to change.

I have overall seen a slight improvement in some of the interactions between you and your wife. Mostly because you have done a better job of interacting.

I know how hard it is not to react when you are in so much pain. The less you react with the first thought, the first emotion, the first reflex action the better things seem to be, though.

I know you want to see changes in your W. I know you want her back. I know you love her and you love your children.

Things are kind of floating along and yet, you are reacting less. I don't know what will help you to do more of that. Silent prayers, looking away, counting to ten, pinching yourself? The more you are still and not reacting to her, the better things will get.

Don't get impatient. We still have a long way to go, Phil. I'll be here for you.

Remember about the butterfly effect. Less reacting is better for you and ultimately, will help with your children and eventually with your w.