Advice-Husband moved in with OW(I'm a Newby)

[hope3343]

Hi T2L
thanks for you kind words. I thought I would be the one cheering you up. My heart went out to your little guy who came home from the party because he was worried about you. The kids are the victims of their selfishness. My day here was not the best. He came to the soccer game and sat with me. I was just not up to it today. I sat there and talked little. then after the game (we lost 3-0) he asks what I am doing tonight. I told him nothing. He says I made plans to go to the Comedy Club with some of the guys (right?). He said after last night when I gave him such a hard time he wants to go out and have fun. This is a guy I could not drag out of the house on the weekend. I told him well have a good time and why doesn't he just bring a date. He swore at me and left. I took D15 and friend out to eat on the way home and when I got her he is already gone. Then he calls me. He says is D going bowling. I tell him yes and I will be here. I ask what time show is he going to, and he starts mumbling oh I might just go out to play pool or whatever. This drinking thing is getting old and dangerous. He then tells me I should go to this class. i tell him no. We argued and I tell him that apartment hunting and going to a class doesn't make him father of the year. How could he be happy leaving us - leaving me? My D came out and gave me a hug. She is the smartest one here. I swear to you tomorrow I am following DB to the letter. I hate the way I feel. It is hard for me to make plans. I do not know too many people here except work people we both know. The good news is that I do have plans tomorrow. A new friend that is not from work invited me over for coffee. I am disappearing for the whole afternoon. Need to escape. So you salsa dance? How cool. I could learn country dancing but I am not a country type girl! I miss the East Coast, I miss my family/friends there. It is just my D and myself -- on our own. I will read the link you sent me. This message board is turning into a blessing for me. I hope you are doing well this weekend. chat soon. k