It gives me hope when I read that you are rebuilding your life. It all seems possible even when at the moment it seems impossible.
We are also upper middle class BUT at this stage have not sold anything ( although waiting on offer for a property) In fact we purchased another investment property this year. Thing is we both work very well as business partners ( perhaps that was the problem - not enough loving - all business )
The bad side to the above is that we are tangled together not just with kids and I still feel very finacially dependent on him. If my M cannot be fixed then everything will have to go and it will be me forcing it I think.
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Despite the hardship that faces her, I will contest the financial terms of the dissolution anyway. Not to spite her, but for negotiation purposes. She is withholding something I want - more time with my kids. I am willing to pay her ransom money to get more time with my kids! Money is the only card I have in my hand at this point.
Thats what i am talking about. Good on you.
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he funny thing is, she reaches out to me, from time to time. Under the terms of the court order, I am not permitted to contact her in any way. But in some small ways she contacts me, she emails me and tells me things I don't need to know - she is starting a new job, helping a friend out with a seminar, going out of town. None of this is my concern at this point. I am constrained from ever responding, though, according to her no-contact order.
She cannot let go !!!I know her feelings. Seems she is playing hard ball on the face of it but deep down she is not letting go. Amazing to me. She has to have regrets. When she reaches out to are you listening and understanding ? Does she know she can come back ? UNCONDITIONINGLY ( she could not do it any other way)
Have you had another girlfriend since it all happened ? If not have you tried hinting to her that you are out and about and looking ? For me that is the biggest fear because I know that there are many people out there that you can form relationships with. The new R would be exciting and loving and fireworks etc .
You become stronger when there is someone else in your life. You dont care about former spouse or current H or W. They are boring and old news. So this really frightens me but i also would of welcomed it just to get H off my back when A first discovered.
Not sure where you are at with W. She may have another man and if so then what I said above would not work.
hope you have some fun things planned with kids. Lovely spring morning here so I am going outside to do solo mother jobs . Ha Ha
