Advice-Husband moved in with OW(I'm a Newby)

[Trying2live]

I'm so sorry. I understand about the kids. I have a son who is 9 and a daughter who is 17. Yesterday my son decided he would like to go to a friends to spend the night so I brought him his overnight bag. He seemed worried that I was going to be home alone(hurts he's only 9 he shouldn't have to worry about mom). I say son have a great time it's not your worry you need to be a kid. He calls me at 9:30PM to pick him up-a supposed stomach ache. Then on the way home he breaks down in tears and says I'm nervous all the time, I feel like I have to protect you now that dad is gone. He says he is so nervous and can't stop biting his fingernails. I tell him that he is doing a wonderful job and this is a hard thing. We are going to therapy next week. Was alone most of the evening until then, it was hard. Most friends are married so I don't really want to intrude on their night. Need more friends in Southern California area who are going thru the same thing.

I'm glad you caught yourself and went out the listen to the band-especially for the self respect half. We should not have to beg. We did not create this. I would not even respond to the fact that he went to the class. A friend told me don't expect anything normal from my spouse, and I don't think you should either.

Look further up my thread, either the 1st or 2nd page. Someone sent me 2 links. One was to physiology.com or something like that and the other was to a link on the boards explaining the mindsets of these guys. It's VERY informative. Read more books as well to get super informed.
I just found another book that I will be going to buy to day. Very similar to DB book. Its by Dr. Willard F. Harley called, Surviving An Affair.

And as hard as it sounds keep concentrating on your self. Sounds like yours is probably harder than mine as it seems like he's still living in the home. Mine is not. So there's hardly any contact. I'd probably lose it if he was on the home. Keep your head up and don't be too hard on yourself. One step in front of the other.
These guys seem like they all want the attention on them the whole world on them. Don't give it to him, as the book says GAL. I'm not totally there either but I am trying. At the start of this nightmare I started salsa lessons. It's the one thing i really look forward to. Do you have an out let that treats and cares for you?