At the time of bomb #3 I threw myself into Graduate School, Parenting, and Yoga. I was busy all the time and used yoga to exercise my body and mind and also provide a sane, meditative space in which to simply *be*. I also journaled extensively! Here is something I wrote when I first came to this journey:
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1. Pray 2. Tear up a picture of the two of us 3. I walked a Labyrinth and buried a tornup picture of the two of us (see #2 above) at the center, released the whole problem to God and walked out to the world renewed. 4. Minimizing contact with H 5. Started a "release" journal...Wrote stuff in it like, "I release pain, I release anger, I release despair, etc,etc, over and over until I was "written out" Then I burned the paper in the fireplace, visualizing my negative emotions transformed by the fire. 6. Re-wrote the script in my mind. Instead of "My H is a dirty no good so and so who has been cheating on me for three YEARS " I now tell myself, "My H and I have grown distant, and have decided to separate" (True) 7. Pray some more 8. Focus on my 2 WONDERFUL kids and making a new life for me 9. Keeping BUSY (see # 8 above...) 10. Yoga!
What mistakes did you make
I would say I held on to the idea of "the marriage" for way too long. I gave H way too many chances. But in a way all that time was needed for me to detach and get clear.
What was your best victory Finishing my Masters in 18 months while single parenting and getting my D into the school of her choice.
What was your worst loss Hard to say. I think everything is better now, although not EASIER. My illusions were shattered, but that isn't a loss, that is a gain.
Are you happier and whyI am happier in so many ways. I think I am fundamentally happier, although the survival/financial struggle has been difficult. Ultimately I am way better off than I was.
Survival Goddess "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." -Alice Walker
