Treese, You will need to speak to your lawyer about that. Is a legal separation recognized in your state? If you don't want to file for a divorce, ask your lawyer about a separation. Be sure to have it back dated to the date he actually stopped living in your residence (under one roof).
Yes, it's very difficult to have them come around while they are doing what they are doing and you know what? He, in his frame of mind at this time, really doesn't care what people think. However, if and ever wakes up, he will care. Right now, it's all about him and what makes him feel better. The new friends don't have the history that you do with him.
Hang in there.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
