I needed a little while away from the boards to think, but thank you for thinking of me while I was away!
Ali- Jody told me not to do NC as it doesn't work in my situation (H just feels like he doesn't deserve my friendship so it works against us). She said to keep supporting him and be a friend, and that he won't come back to the R until he's totally sure of himself and of me. She said it's going to take a long time, so there's no point in me going for a quick fix. On the other hand, sometimes NC does seem an appealing option. Being nice to him and being in contact so much is sometimes very draining. Jody also said to expect that, so something's going right!
Michelle, Jeff, Julia- buying new socks is a definite goal. I bought some purple fluffy ones last week. They are very cool (and feel so soft, FYI Jeff!).
Julia- I set little goals every week for my R with H. This week it was for him to suggest meeting up, for longer eye contact and for him to take my hand. I didn't acheive any of those, which was a bit frustrating, but you can't expect increments of success each week. I think we've been going through a period of change in the 'R' we have at the moment so he may need time to process that. I feel like I do myself!
Mishka, My Lady Sunshine- thank you for the lovely compliments. You're both pretty lovely yourselves!
T- glad to see you back. I really did miss you!
So, I've had a nice couple of days. Thursday was busy at work, so that was quite good. Nothing much to report. H and I exchanged a couple of e-mails about his top 5 snacks (or what sport he'd be if he was a sport). I came home early and did some exercise.
Yesterday H sent me an e-mail mid-afternoon to tell me about his night out on Thursday. He was hungover and told me I should go to it as it had been so fun (a food/wine tasting at Whole Foods). I should have probably validated this and thanked him for the idea, but I couldn't be bothered so I didn't. He also said work was a bit better (I did validate that), and talked a bit about snacks. I replied in the same tone, possibly a little colder, telling him an amusing story about a gift that arrived for me.
Meanwhile, CEO has been a bit ambiguous in his behaviour. I'll post this separately but could do with some male insight....
You're both pretty lovely yourselves!
