Okay, I need to respond directly to a couple of posts later, but I just wanted to come and say that I actually got H to LAUGH tonight! This is the first time that has happened since the bomb, I think! I didn't make a fuss about it (he was on his way out the door anyway) but I got a little thrill...one of my baby step goals has been inspiring him to smile more in conversing with just me (realizing that I have a limited amount of control over this outcome), but I didn't think laughter was on the program anytime soon, so I'm kinda excited!

Don't worry, I'm not letting it go to my head, I'm still all about detaching, but it's one of the few positive signs I've seen in quite a while, so I'm pleased! AND the icing on the cake was that we actually had a normal sort of conversation for at least...oh, 10 or 15 minutes tonight! This is pretty significant, since nearly all of our conversations in the last year or so have either been under a minute or so (unless I was sort of forcing it) or very unpleasant, or both.

We actually talked mostly about politics, which is not a controversial subject between us because we have very similar views in that arena. I wouldn't touch a conversation with him about sex these days, though!

So, finally some good news I can point to, small as it is! \:\) I will get back to individual responses to posts a bit later!

Peace,
Dawn

Me 45/H 47, no kids
Together since 1985; M/1992
Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001
Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues
H left 11/24/08
minimal contact, no legal action
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