Sand if he wants to have R talk just meet and listen. Think of it as a business meeting. If he asks you ?'s just say h that is a very good ? I am going to need some time to think about that and get back to you.

Then when the R talk is done, thank your h for meeting with you and that you will be in touch. That could mean for you 1 day, 1 week, 2 weeks.

Listen and validate is always the best policy. No arguing!

Me 50
H 42
S 22
S 9
D 7
M 12
T 17
H moved out 8/2006
H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks
H moved home 5/2011 for good

"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"