SPM,
Thanks for the wake-up call; I think I needed that. I have been thinking that I need to find it in myself to stop complaining about H to other people, and just stick to the facts and let them draw their own conclusions. I'm not going to pretend everything is fine when it isn't, but I want to work on letting it be peripheral to my life.

I think the real trick here is to find the line between unconditional love and letting people get off scot-free when it isn't for the best...and stay on the correct side of that line. After all (and I sure hope this doesn't start another religion battle!), Jesus wasn't "nice" all the time...there was the bit about him driving out the moneylenders from the temple, for example! When do we demonstrate loving kindness, forgiveness, the "softer" side of love; and when do we show tough love? I suppose no one alive can really say definitively, but I think it is a worthwhile topic for discussion.

Peace,
Dawn


Me 45/H 47, no kids
Together since 1985; M/1992
Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001
Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues
H left 11/24/08
minimal contact, no legal action
http://tinyurl.com/DawnHope1