Darned if he does, darned if he don't

[Kelly23]

Things have been the same. The MC kept telling him that he needs to ask me if I want to talk about things, even when he does not want to talk. This will let me get things off my chest and deal with things as they are bothering me. We went about a week and he never said a word. Now I have gotten to the point that when he does ask, I am so angry and pissed that I say no. I can feel all of the anger building up again. I am tensing up when he touches me.
I thought I was over worrying but found out I am not. I logged in to our bank account online to make sure we had enough money to buy tires for my car. It was a day he was off work and I saw that he had gotten money out of the teller on the bank on the other side of town, close to her house. I was at work when I logged in and all day long I could not think about anything else. This is the only thing he has done since he said they were through but it worried me so much. I am so sick of the affair controlling my life.