Max,

I have read your posts. Thank you for your honesty. I am sorry you find yourself here and for the pain you are experiencing.

I have a question if I may. My husband is having an EA and fully prepared to take it physical in October although he avoids the fact that ANYTHING is going on even after I talked to her. I believe he is at the point where you once were. He hates me and sees our M as a failure. She is perfect in his eyes. Do you think given your state of mind at the time that you would have ended the A if he insisted? I have thought about giving him an ultimatum. Every one of his friends and family think that he is divorced and that it is completely my fault. He is an angel. I suppose that is my leverage to uncover his A and the fact that we are still married to all his friends and family. I think this may enrage him however. The D should be final in 5 months and I wonder whether he will see the light in such a short time but rather be more determined than ever to proceed regardless of which option he chooses.

All the best!

Last edited by HOPEFULinCALI; 09/05/08 10:34 PM.
Posts
Role Reversal(original)
WAW now LBS part I & II
WAW now LBS part III(current)
T: 9 yrs
M: 8 yrs
WAW: Sep 06-Jul 07
LBS: Sep 07-pres.