I never flame anyone and I'm definitely not trying to minimize your pain. I know as an individual your pain is just as deep as anyone else here (and maybe even deeper since poets are often very sensitive people). And I realize this is an issue you are particularly sensitive to.
I think lying, cheating, adultry, etc... is always wrong. I would never condone it. I think committing infidelity whether you have kids or not is equally wrong. I don't have any tolerance for that whatsoever.
But I personally am more tolerant of divorce (particularly amicable divorce) when underaged children are not involved. That's my personal feeling and others may feel differently. I respect that.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
