It's hard to imagine what that could be like for a 7-yo....To all of a sudden find out that your daddy had a baby with another woman (a Troll, in this case) who is not your mommy....and you never had any clue. You thought only Mommies and Daddies, H's and W's, had babies together. Talk about being blindsided!
I'm sorry, but I disagree with the C on this one. I just don't think waiting is the best move here. From my own personal experience, it was so much better for me to talk to my boys about all that was going on. I did not want to keep them in the dark...and often to my surprise, they already KNEW a lot....Because they listen. And they witness. Whenever we as adults think our children are off doing other things and not listening to or bearing witness to our interactions, they ARE. It really is like in the movies.....where Mom/Dad is on the phone in the other room or Mom and Dad are arguing downstairs, and the kids are watching from the top of the stairs or they are lying awake in bed listening. Not pretty, but it's reality.
Anyway, this is all JMO, Corey, and I know you will make what you believe is the best decision for your little girl.
(((((Corey)))))
Everything you said is 100% true. I WANT him to tell her, but I have already accepted that it will probably have to be me. I had to smile thinking about what you said regarding the kids listening, not that its funny, but I remember doing it as a kid. I knew EVERYTHING!!! that went on in my house. I think I even knew my sister was pregnant, I just really didn't want to deal with it. So after talking to her last night, I'm positive she knows of the Trolls existence and may even suspect about the baby, shes just not able to handle it. Baby steps. There is some time still and so it will just have to come in small doses for her. I'll do the best I can and maybe someday she'll understand.
Thanks guys.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
I haven't had a chance to swing by (or even text) lately. I'm sorta caught up (had to 'skim' the posts really fast). It sounds like you keep handling the punches with your special style. Your baby girl will make it through this crap because she has such a great example in her momma.
I'll catch up better when I have more time (and when I finally get Internet at my new place! EEECK).
Miss and love you lots!
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
It sounds like you keep handling the punches with your special style. Your baby girl will make it through this crap because she has such a great example in her momma. I'll catch up better when I have more time (and when I finally get Internet at my new place! EEECK). Miss and love you lots!
((((Darling Ms. Imp)))) I'm so glad to hear from you! I have been wondering how you are. You have been on my mind a lot lately, which prompted the text. Thanks for the kind words. I do the best I can with what I've been given.
Originally Posted By: GoingForward
Just wanted to wish you a fabulous weekend! (((((Hugs)))))
(((GF))) Back atcha sista! Have a great one!
Originally Posted By: MichelleLT
How are you doing other than that?
(((Michelle))) I'm doing pretty good, all things considered. I'm just working and going to school (online) and taking care of the kids and etc...ad naseum. I'm at a place where I have accepted the situation for what it is and I'm trying to find a balance between what the reality is and trying to figure out where I want to end up and how I want to get there. Kinda strange, but its ok.
How're you?
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
FYI...I told H that SIL knows about the baby. I didn't tell him about all the myspace BS, since I'm pretty sure that story is BS. I just told him that the wife of a guy that plays cards at the cardroom told his sister that the Troll is pregnant. He needs to know and I'd rather have him know from me than her. Not rescuing either, avoiding a huge blow out since these people are not listeners. They talk at each other.
Had lunch with an old friend and she and I laughed and laughed. God it felt good. Thats about it for now. Gotta work on the goal thing...how 'bout procrastination? LOL!!!
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
(((Tal))) thanks, it would be nice to have more laughs with someone else that could use them too.
Been a pretty quiet weekend. Went to DS football game yesterday. He did so good. DD has a friend over right now and its so good for her.
I haven't heard from H yet today, though I know he has spoken to DS on several occasions. Whatever, he can be such a child sometimes.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
