One other question for you ladies. I know this has not been the case for all of you but I read this on another thread and was curious. The poster has not posted in well over a month so I thought I would ask it here.
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Hang in there, everhope! it looks like she needs time away from the R before she realizes that your R may be what is best for her. I figured out (after awhile, a few years, and seeing my H with OW) that all my OM resembled H in many ways but he was better... so it took time but i figured it out.
Is it seeing the H with someone new or hearing about it?
I can't answer that one, sorry. I wanted to let you know there is a whole thread for WAW questions. It's in newcomers, & it's called DEAR AWAW. You can ask all the questions you want, & read through some of the other ones.
take care
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
Hiya bridge...just popping in on you. kids start tommorrow for us. Yuck. Hows about you?
If you get a chance....check out the latest on my sitch...i backslid :-( but it wasn't too bad....well, yes it was...but i'm ok with it...sorta gave me a new direction to take....
ME:32 WAW:31 D #1: 3.5 D #2: 2 Together: 13 M:6 Bomb Dropped: 2/15/08 Sep legally: 6/18/08
"Tommorrow there'll be sunshine, and all this darkness past..." -Bruce Springsteen Land of Hope and Dreams
Hey Bridge, just checking in on you. I had an interesting day.
Hugs
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
thanks purple long day of C here. our counselor tried walking me through some IC about my parents and my fears with them in front of H. I answered honestly, got a bit emotional about things.. when the C questioned some of what he thought were irrational thoughts about being 'disowned' H did speak up and say.. no.. she's right, both sides of her parent's family have done that repeatedly to their siblings.. she has reason to be afraid of that.
C asked me to write my parents a letter explaining to them how I feel and what i want from a R with them. And then wanted to bring them into C for me to read that letter to.
At this point I'm really uncomfortable doing that with him. I don't feel he understands my relationship at all with my parents. My IC & I have been working on that along with my other issues for over a year.. and it seemed to me that this guy asked about 6 questions in 3 minutes, and then said you need to do x, y, z with them, because until you do, you won't be able to do a, b, c with H.
Now H feels justified in saying.. "see, it's not about me, I don't have to bring my parents into counseling."
ugg.. sometimes he is so 10 years old.
I"m 'shredded' as SC would say and headed to bed. night all Bridge
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
Taking the road less traveled because those encountered on the way may be just as unique.
Hello sweetie.. you posted @ Labs in the Weight Gal thread to me. I have a question...
My Lab chews on WOOD whenever he gets nervous or bored,,, he is ruining a lot of things and namely old woodwork and it isnt my house!!!!!!!!!!!! I am moving out and he has ruined the banister which is OOOOOOOOOOOLD! The back wood stairs and also my antique buffet.
HELP~ Ali { My thread is in SSM~ Beauty and The Beast is the thread title } I am at my wits end with him... I am moving and when I take him to the 'new' house he whines the whole time and he is tied up outside with me walking back and forth past him , bringing stuff in. He can see me the whole time???!~!? So he is going to upset the neighbors and I leave him here and he chews up the place!?!?
