We're never getting back together-How do you cope?

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Hey, glad it went so well for you. Sounds like you handled yourself great. Perhaps W is beginning to realize her sadness is not your fault, since you haven't been around her much.

I'm concerned about your D though. She needs help. If you are with her it might help if you lovingly but persistently tried to get her to talk about her sad feelings. She needs someone to empathise and give her a hug. She needs to know she is not alone with her sadness. She needs someone to understand how she feels. You don't have to fix it, just let her know you understand and you sometimes feel the same way. W doesn't sound like she is in a place to be there for her. You need to do it.

Overall, sounds like W and BIL can make themselves miserable with no one elses help.

Is there anything that you need to apologise to him for ? Is he just immature or have you guys exchanged words ?

Anyway, glad that's over. Keep on reading everything you can on this site and keep posting.

Guess what? tonight W and I are going out to eat. I plan to hug her for 15 seconds ( if she lets me), compliment her at least once, and ask her about her week. Then I will listen for all I'm worth and share my week. Thats what I'm planning at least.