It just keeps getting worse and worse. I thought I was done with the drama.
The girls are supposed to go to H's tonight, but he has a "function". So he wanted them to stay with me and he would get them tomorrow and they could stay Sunday night instead. I agreed - I don't challenge him ever on the girls schedule. He will have them three weekends out of four in September due to his travel schedule and me accomodating his schedule. I didn't want to do this, but didn't say anything because of the girls.
After he called last night with his "bomb", I emailed him and asked if I could have the girls on Sunday night. My reason for doing this is because he will be telling them about his new relationship on Sunday and I don't know what their reaction will be. I wanted them to be able to come home and talk, if necessary. He agreed that they could come here Sunday night.
I told the girls this after school today. D14 didn't like it and told me that she wants to spend more time with H. She thinks it would be more fair to split the week instead of doing every other weekend. She says she never sees him.
I told her that I would call H and they could stay Sunday night. I also told her that I would work on a schedule which allows them to see him more.
What I didn't tell her is that he is the one that cancels on his time and that he is the one who came up with this schedule. I didn't tell her that he asked about a mid-week dinner night, but never followed up on it.
She said that she didn't want to make me upset. I told her that she wasn't (great liar, huh) and that she could talk to me about anything. I told both girls that I knew that they sometimes didn't talk to me because they were worried about me and that they shouldn't be afraid to talk to me.
So I will talk to H about them spending more time with him, and looking more at a 50/50 schedule instead of every other weekend.
And why shouldn't they want to spend more time with him. No rules, eat whatever you want when you want, TV and computers all of the time, dad buying you anything you want.
I always thought that, if I had my kids, I could make it through just about anything. And now he is taking them away too.
Despair doesn't even begin to cover how I feel right now.
