I have only been like that this week. Because all of it stopped. Before the bomb I was not needy.
Then she pulled the crap, that I never loved her. She felt like I never loved her.
Constant pressure... Really I leave her alone. Only recently I have been texting her all day. Because I have been doing this for 10 months. She was a six month at home WAW. I basically left her alone. When she got home I would rub her down, and then I would leave her alone. In the morning I would go and lay with her. What ticked her off is that I would try and be intimate. Because I just kept thinking if we are intimate then she'll want to be with me.
That was the best part of our relationship. No matter how bad we fought, or was mad at one another the intimacy always got us back on track.
Now she wasn't allowing that to happen.
Gosh she used to do that to me when we were dating. I would be so ticked at her. She would throw herself at me and I would forget what I was even mad about and it didn't matter.
Frank, I think you are absolutely right. I don't need to prove myself to anybody here.
That was the best part of our relationship. No matter how bad we fought, or was mad at one another the intimacy always got us back on track.
So think of a way to mack on her. There must have been someway that you built the attraction. She is clearly still attached to you. How did you do it before? It wasn't by acting like this. Think of what made her love Phil, what attracted her to you, and go back. Go Retro.
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I don't care what you think, as long as it's about me.
Are you on call 24x7? Is your cell phone a 'leash' to your company?
I was... About six years ago I was a field engineer for a major computer company. I switched jobs, and now that I switched this job is in constant jeopardy of being lost. My department went from 8 to 4. I'm the only contractor left, and I feel like the only guy that knows how to do anything.
Goingforward... That question is ummmm, how do you say it... Poppycock in my opinion.
Let me say this. This board has plenty of people on it that have passive aggresive tendancy. That is a majority of the problem with these posters. None of them admit their wrong. Then they try and prove me wrong. When I'm not wrong.
Fig for the record. Marriage is a bond of oneness. Two become one. It is not a metaphor. Caseclosed, or no soup for you.
The sky is blue. Case closed...
A new one.... A metaphor and simile are the same thing by definition. In writing a simile uses the words like or as to represent something else.
LostPhil is normal. LostPhil's wife is crazy. Case closed!
I was reading your latest conversation with your wife. As I see it, maybe it was a good thing that your cell phone broke because it meant that you and your wife had a conversation. And did you notice you entered into dialogue with her? That's really positive; it means you can still connect.
Your dialogue stopped when you talked about the woman she worked with. If I were you I wouldn't bring it up again, trust that she's heard you and it's now up to her whether or not she acts on that in her own time.
It seems that when you and your wife text you often seem to 'bark' orders or statements at each other. The conversation seemed to work. Something to build on perhaps?
the my Lord was to Phil and Fig's fighting about silliness. It's like my kids. Kind of funny in a way, but at the same time, distracting from the task at hand. WHY DOES EVERYBODY HAVE TO BE RIGHT ALL THE TIME?????
I'll have clam chowder, I like shredded cheese in it if you don't mind, and maybe a little tobasco
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I don't care what you think, as long as it's about me.
the my Lord was to Phil and Fig's fighting about silliness. It's like my kids. Kind of funny in a way, but at the same time, distracting from the task at hand. WHY DOES EVERYBODY HAVE TO BE RIGHT ALL THE TIME?????
Agreed.
In THIS particular thread that kind of communication doesn't work.
Phil is making an effort to not respond and defend himself to opinions he doesn't disagree with.
Everyone else should be thinking about their responses too.
Phil, if you didn't want to answer the question from GoingForward then you shouldn't have said anything. Come on man, be above this kind of pettyness. You're bigger than that.
