If posters are saying things that you take as 'judgemental' or 'attacking' then please, just don't reply to them. Remember that everyone has an opinion and if you disagree with them you do NOT have to defend yourself. You do NOT have to prove anything to any of us. You do NOT have to justify your actions to ANY of us.
Nobody on this board has any right to sit in judgment of you or your actions. We're all here because we made mistakes and did stupid things.
So when you feel like you're being judged, Just don't reply to them.
Reply to the people who give you ideas that you can work with. If someone gives you a post where part of it seems judgmental and part of it has some good ideas, take the good ideas and ignore the rest.
Remember, people who post are coming from their own perspective, bringing their own hurt and anger, and their love, to this forum.
So, I promise that I'll do my best to be kind and compassionate even when we disagree, and I appreciate the same from you.
Ok?
I want you to stay on the board so that perhaps some of us can help you carry the load while you go through this.
Believe that for the most part all of us care about you and your family.
