Wow Amy...you had quite the weekend! You should be so proud that you managed to not let MIL get under your skin because that was what she wanted after all.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Well, it's only going to be H and I...maybe my D, haven't decided on that one yet. She has some "honey-dos" at her house that really do need to be taken care of before winter. I am not an un-caring DIL. I just need to be a more careful one.
I told H that I cannot at this time keep going forward if he is going to be alone for any extended time with his mother. As much as I hate to admit it, my SIL has been smart in this respect. All their Aunt's have told me, DO NOT, repeat DO NOT let him be alone with her. Are you nuts?? My H does agree and he is the one that brought up me going with him. Even if I don't want to, I am going to do what's best this time.
I doubt she could get into his head right now, but why take the chance.
So I noticed. I guess that means I have to start a new one!!!
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
I am here and barely walking. I feel like i've been out on a drinking binge. (an no I haven't)
I had a very exciting, surreal, national enquirer kind of life for the last 2 days. That is why I haven't been around the last couple of days.
For those that don't know, I'm adopted. 6 yrs ago I found my birthmother. Long story short, I was adopted in Montanta, she was from Minnesota. I moved to Oregon as an adult. When I found her, I had just moved to the coast here. Well, turned out she had raised both of her sons in this small town on the coast where I am living, and I had one brother still here. She and her H were living in AZ but moved back here about 5 yrs ago. We've gotten to know each other, I love her dearly, she has the biggest heart. We're great friends. She doesn't look like me, but my daughter looks like her.
Anyway, I haven't met any of her family. Her oldest brother was in Seattle from Deleware for a reunion, so came down Sunday to see her and meet me. We had dinner at my house Sunday night, My H, my D, bmom and her H, her son and his wife and this "uncle". They didn't leave until after 12:30. It was a long and emotionally draining night. Anyway, the "uncle" is now an "aunt". My bmom has never liked this brother. And I can see why after spending 2 days with him/her. He is a mean mean person. He was extremely nice to me, but when telling stories, he is not a nice person, not someone I'd ever want anything to do with, regardless of his gender. So probably a good thing he lives in Deleware.
So was up late Sun, came to work yesterday morning and my bmom emailed me. All it said was "Uncle Scott is at the house now."
This uncle is her favorite brother. Everyone has told me that my youngest son looks exactly like him. Even the other brother when show his picture asked me where I got the picture of his brother Scott. Scott had decided to surprise everyone by showing up yesterday. So I left work immediately. When I walked into the house, it was like looking into a mirror that ages you. I could see what my 19yr old son would look like when he was 50. It was eerie. Even my D physically reacted when she saw him. My son looks more like his than his own sons do. It was beyond creepy. Anyway, the 2 uncles took D and I out to lunch, went shopping, back to bmoms, then out to dinner all of us, then back to bmoms until almost midnight. The uncle/aunt went back to the motel room right after dinner but Scott stayed. The other one was not getting all the attention and didn't like it, but this uncle is just so cool. I don't even have words to describe him. He is by far and beyond the coolest, most interesting man I have ever met in my entire life. I finally met someone that looks like me. It was a very surreal experience. I couldn't stop staring at the man. He is so interesting and exteremly intelligent. And kind, so, so kind. He's coming back in November, and I'm hoping he comes at a time when my son isn't working so they can meet. If not, I'll take him to his work.
Sooooo...I'm exhausted today. That's why I've been absent. And it helped put MIL crap out of my head. (she started more crap Sunday) And right now, she can kiss my b*tt. I don't even want to think about her. I am on such a high right now.
I truly admire your poise and strength. You're awesome! 