Sense of security Affection Attentiveness Open communication Honesty Church attendence Responsible/makes trust worthy choices Able to solve problems without arguing Supportive/listens without judgement Treats me as a priority: not an inconvenience or obligation Frequent sex Financial stability
Wants (negotiables):
Common interests Affirmation of positives in the relationship "I love you" said daily Calls to check in or check on Help around the house Connection to my family Romantic gestures Shows interest in my interests/thoughts/day Ability to forgive and to ask for forgiveness
The other part of my list is boundaries I would like my husband to follow.
1. No one on one time with other women. 2. Set limits on time spent with friends 3. Limited drinking when out with friends 4. No flirting with other women when out with buddies (even "innocent" seeming) 5. Limit time in bars 6. No clubs (like music and dancing and drinking kind of clubs, I'm not worried about strip clubs because my husband has never been interested in those even when single)
Anyways that was the list I took to the session of the things I need and want from my marriage. So either my husband can fulfill it or not. . .we shall see.
