Well, it's only going to be H and I...maybe my D, haven't decided on that one yet. She has some "honey-dos" at her house that really do need to be taken care of before winter. I am not an un-caring DIL. I just need to be a more careful one.
I told H that I cannot at this time keep going forward if he is going to be alone for any extended time with his mother. As much as I hate to admit it, my SIL has been smart in this respect. All their Aunt's have told me, DO NOT, repeat DO NOT let him be alone with her. Are you nuts?? My H does agree and he is the one that brought up me going with him. Even if I don't want to, I am going to do what's best this time.
I doubt she could get into his head right now, but why take the chance.