Hello my friends, now for the next installment of As Dan's World Turns.
I spent some time this morning engaged in chasing down a cheeseless tunnel and then I came to my senses and stopped. I came home, got more sleep and pondered.
While in the shower, something occurred to me. W has agreed not to file for D until end of Jan and in CO, there is a 90 day cooling off period, and just by being a little obstinate, I imagine that I have a whole year ahead of me. In my life, perseverance has served me well. It is how I got the girl. It's how I graduated college. So, I've found a new strength to persevere.
Also, as I was in the shower, I realized that there is much more to life than my relationship with my wife. This may seem obvious, but, it was an aha moment for me. I believe this is the beginning of detaching and of truly getting a life. As long as I put massive amounts of time and energy into thinking about and worrying about and analyzing our marriage and relationship, it steals my energy and my strength for the rest of life. On top of that, if I understand DR correctly, especially when the marriage relationship is threatened, we who are trying to save it narrow our focus to the relationship and cast aside all the other things that make us attractive men and women. This is in harmony with that idea that the harder we try to hold onto something, the more it slips through our fingers.
As to the other issues I've wrestled with here in this last week, I truly don't yet know.
