The words they say hurt, FW said the second time he left that "OW filled a void in him that I never could". She was his "soulmate". She "touched places inside him that I never did" BLAH BLAH BLAH.
His OW was also "understanding" that we had to talk about the kids. Don't believe it for a second. Sit back. Don't push, no expectations and let them live their lives. You know him, you know his track record. You know in your heart that this isn't going to work. You're not going to have to do anything except be there to pick up the pieces - IF YOU WANT TO. With your H, I'd think long and hard about that and I'd have to see some real changes before it would happen.
She says stuff like that because she's insecure. She thinks if you give up then she can have him. So, give them what they want. Your H will soon see that you aren't the problem.
BFM
There is only one person who could ever make you happy, and that person is you. David Burns, Intimate Connections
