Jen - YOu have made a TON of progress in the last 10 days. With yourself, which is what you really needed to do. You have a lot to be proud of. I know I was really impressed when I got home earlier this week to see how good you had handled things over the weekend.
Do not discount the progress you've made. It may not feel like you've made progress with your H, but you have. He is seeing the changes in you. That is a start.
Oh thanks Amy. Thats such a sweet thing to say. I've been in a much better mood these days and I haven't even bothered to ask him anything about what he's doing, nothing about any female friends. It's not worth it you know? I like the people I'm meeting and it feels good for people to want to talk to me. My xh thinks I'm unapproachable...if he only knew lol
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
When he first wanted a D he told me that we'd be both better off. Now that we're D and he sees me making new friends do you think he might at one point think "hey, see I told you this would be best for us"? It's his truth versus mine isn't it?
My C said that the number one goal of every human being is to have their resons for things. The master key is to let them think they are right
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
If I remember right Jen, didn't he say it would be best because it would give you guys a clean slate to start over also?
And he is right, this is better for you both. Healthier all around. And just because its better for you both, does not mean he isn't going to eventually come home. He wanted a healthier R with you, and that is what you are learning to give him. You want to be in a better place. That's the goal.
