Well, kids are now in school & curriculum night for S5 & S16 was last night at different schools, so a little tricky.
Nothing has really changed since the e-mail from H expressing the need to "move forward."
No filing, no moving to a more permanent address or reference to a desire to end our M.
I've held to the "no contact, except regarding kids" & turned down a couple of invitations to join H for dinner w/kids. Not difficult when I have little desire to continue our crowded threeway R of the last year & 4 months. In fact, I do see how it happens that you can change from a LBS to a WAS as it wears on.
We have attended all the orientation & school events for S5 together & it's been fine. No R talk, no initiating conversation of topic's that aren't kid related. He on the other hand, has much he'd like to share w/me, calls often with questions that he could answer himself & spends a lot more time w/S5.
I have a birthday coming up very soon & H asked me last week if I would want to "catch a bite to eat" that night with him & S5.
My first thought is that he phrases it that way for a few reasons; -incase I already had plans w/someone else.
-so it wouldn't look as bad if OW should find out.
-so it wouldn't appear that it means more than he wants it to & he remains in control.
Anyway, I told him yesterday I wouldn't be going out w/him that night to "catch a bite."
He seemed to be bothered & started naming restaurants that I like (including the one he took me to last year for my BD) & saying he hoped I'd reconsider. I didn't give him a direct answer & said I'd think about it.
To go or not to go?
Going, even if I want to, would seem to cancel out all the kid's only contact & maybe send a message that he doesn't really have to change anything, like continuing w/OW (if he still is, which until I have concrete proof it's over, it's not.)
You're right in there w/ #3 SD, a lot of control issues,which seems to be very common, doesn't it!
