Ok thanks soooo much. I did read the book and had a few coaching sessions but cannot schedule more for financial reason-all caused by this mess by the way. Ok I feel like I have a plan. Sounds hard but I'm going to do it. I'm a bad faker but here goes.

You weren't whining, I think we're all here really to be able to vent, get encouragement and sound advice. Thanks for the tip!

Me-38 H-38
Married 18years
Daughter-17 & Son-9
Discovery of EA/PA 4/23/08
Left home 5/08/08
Moved in with OW 08/01/08

The only rock I know that stays steady, the only institution I know that works is the family.
-- Lee Iacocca