I know it's hard when they move in with OW, but really it is better all the way around. I know that sounds crazy, but just bear with me.
FW moved in with his OW, both times right away. It took the wonder out of "are they together?" "Is he still seeing her?". I knew they were. I knew what I was up against and it took a lot of the pressure off.
Also, do you realize how great it is that they are going to be living together?? Can you imagine the fights and disagreements they are going to have?? Think about how horribly they get along now? Can you imagine how much worse it will be when they are living together? WHOOO WHEEE. Stand back and watch the show. There is no better way to get sick of someone quick than to live with them when you're not compatible. What a boon for you!
I much preferred FW living with his OW than not. I would hate to be like so many on here that I read about who's H's are still trying to hide their OW. Who's H's are still lying to them about their involvement with OW. I always thought the being lied to and the unknown before the bomb was way worse than anything else.
Yes, you're hurt now, but try to look at the bright side of all this and see that it's not the end of the world.
BFM
There is only one person who could ever make you happy, and that person is you. David Burns, Intimate Connections
