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sounds like you took care of YOU! good....men really dont like being sick or in pain...so just hang with it!

i think you are doing well from what i can see he just is taking a teeny step back!


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Hi guys!

XH came and got D this morning for their usual day at the club. I had a class and then I have my IC and then an event at the embassy right after that. I need to let him know that I'm going and hopefully I'll be clear enough so he doesn't get snippy this time \:\)

I am trying to take care of me. XH has pulled back a bit but then again he is sick too so I can't evaluate why or even if it's a pulling back this time.

I can't babysit him and care for him if he doesn't want me too. With him a simple "how do you feel" is plenty because once you start asking if he needs anything he get's grumpy. If he wants then he asks.


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Hi

I called XH to "remind" him about the embassy thingy. We discussed what to do about D and he said he could take her to his parents with him so I didn't have to worry about "curfew" lol...said with a straight face too. I told him I wouldn't be very late but if he wanted to take her with him then fine and if not let me know si I wouldn't be late because that was fine too.


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good. i agree with not prying or prodding. if he needs something he will ask.

also- you are keeping him in the loop with your timeframes which he likes. thats respectful.

have fun at your partay!


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donde esta mi jen?


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So how did your evening go Jen?

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Hi

I got back at around midnight last night and today I had a meeting so I'm just now getting on the boards for the day.

The evening went well. I went at 7 and it was already pretty crowded. I found someone I knew from the Immigration Depatrment at the embassy and stuck to him until I scoped out who else I knew. The crowd from the Hash arrived around 8:30/9.00. It was pretty fun. I meet people from Zulia, the US, Canada, Chile, the Netherlands, Germany, England, South Africa, Suriname, Guyana and of course Venezuela. I felt I was at the UN or something lol

XH took D to his parents so that was good because I had originally thought that the event would be over around 9:30 but as it turns out the people usually stick around until they run out of booze which was about 11:30 this time.

I saw XH today. He wanted me to go across the road to the bakery our friend owns. He had somethings to tell me and some paper to give me. In all honesty he could have done that over the phone and the papers were not pressing. ummm maybe he wanted to see me? \:o


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Sounds like it, Jen. It sure sounds like it.


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Especially after my going out last night lol...He's still a DAM

He looked happy to see me when I walked in. Ok no expectations or reading into things ;\)


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I have my second coaching session with Vernetta today in 90 minutes. I don't feel like I've made much progress with XH over the last 10 days but I think personally I have progressed.


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