you're totally right. I don't think this is the time for me to try some tricky flight plan--it's time for me to focus on finishing my degree so I can graduate in december!!
It means a lot to me that you are going to think about ways to generate his interest. My feeling is that I need to give him space to come to me... but be extremely encouraging and warm without scaring him away, when he does approach me.
i have NO IDEA about something amazing that would make him want to contact me...I will need to think that over!! I think part of the reason I was so extremely low for a couple weeks is because I was despairing about how I feel like my life is not so amazing right now. the closest I've come to that is mentioning the possibility of a new cello twice in two different emails, which for a musician is kind of like buying a new house or a car or even a small plane depending on the price, but he has not responded to that at all. Of course it is also intrinsically of more interest to me than to him.
Some possibilities that come to mind include... some kind of job lead information that would help him with his career (but he is way more in the loop than me on this one, being already in the epicenter of NYC); telling him about something amazing I achieved/created/did (honestly don't know how I would pull this off at this point, I am just trying to finish my damn degree); some combination of the above, along the lines of, "Oh, hey B, bjork/ yo yo ma/ jesus called me and wants me to record on their next album and they are also looking for a violinist so I thought I would give them your info"; or finding something really awesome that would make him want to talk about it with me, not even necessarily music-related...????
things I"ve tried to do already to generate interest include:
-absolutely nothing (NC) -looking damn hot in a completely new way (makeup, haircut, all new outfits, etc) -listening more, talking less -being somewhat mysterious -being positive about my life -reaching out with funny links and light phone calls -many small 180s during our interactions -and, of course, more subtle but maybe more important, the results of all the work I've been doing on myself to try to be a better person.
Essie, it means so much that you are thinking for me.... I am very excited to hear your ideas.
