Homeward Bound!

[pisces9]

Hi Daisy- well yes ive always known they were toxic. but they have ways of being so charming that id "forget" and convince my H to do things like move into a house w my bro....so we both at fault but since they are my family and i know them deeper- i take full responsibility.

also- i went through a phase of depression where i acted just like them- screaming at my h, yelling, angry, etc. we separated for one month ( 1st sep) and i really did change. i mean a 180. i dont think i ever lost it again and that was 3 yrs ago.

my H has basically said for this past year that he has no urge to see my family anymore...i think he feels smothered and that he cant help me bc they are so overwhelming.

so i guess what i see is that ive known they were toxic for a long time, and i dragged my h into this which caused damage, but thank goodness he is back now and wants to star a new life with me. i didnt really know how to get out bc they are very wealthy and i allowed the money to woo me.

he has made it crystal clear that we need major break from my family. so that is a scary part for me as i think i have always used them as sort of an "out" or safety net (weird!).

also- he said he got misty eyed last night when i said im putting all my eggs in his basket again. i think he really needed me to be ok with leaving my family. and make him my #1 priority. no more drama from them into our M.

so all i am showing him is that i trust him 100% to be my MAN.

im sorry you find yourself with this situation. all you can do is state how you feel. if you are sep and want your H back. make sure that part changes as well or he at lest acknowledges it is an issue.

if he doesnt- it will be the same game. and you really need to see if you need that garbage in your life. now is the time to really clean up yur life.