New month, new strategy

[istherehope]

Also wanted to ask everyone's advice on something...

I think the answer will be no, but I'd like to hear the opinions.

H's mom reached out to me last month, and said she loved me very much, and was there for me if I needed anything. I also know that she had told him he needed space. However I don't think she realized just how bad of shape he was in, and also how committed I was to making things work. I took the honorable route and said I didn't want to put her in the middle of things, I love her son, am committed to making the marriage work, and that I know she is support for H, and I respect that.

H is already panicking about when I come back. I wonder if I were to talk to his mother, and give her my perspective, if she wouldn't consider whether she should give him some different advice. I mean he may or may not take it, but he really does listen to her. She really does love me, and we really do get along very well. I assume she'd want him to try and make the marriage work, to give it every chance.

I am 90% sure this is actually a bad idea, but it is so incredibly appealing to me right now so if anyone has thoughts on this would love to hear them...

ITH