JUST USED LRT-WHAT DO I DO NOW???

[Sanderika]

Hi all....

Well it's been very interesting around here...I really need to share this with you.

On Wed. (9/3...My Birthday) The Postal Delivery Person left me a note that I had a Registered/Certified package to pick up. It was address to me in my FULL name and was from my H (supposedly).

You guessed right....It was divorce papers!!!

Before I went to get them I called my H and asked him if that was what was in the envelope. His exact reply was...."DON'T GO GET THOSE". I asked him "Why"....He said "DON"T GO GET THOSE YET, WE WILL TALK LATER"

He called me at 8:30pm. I asked him "Why don't you want me to get them" He said he didn't send them. I asked who did. He said OW went to his office that morning after he had left for a job and finished filling out the papers he had started 3 years ago and mailed them behind his back and then called him and told him what she had done. He claims she had been threatening to do it for months since he wasn't doing it.

He said he wasn't sure it's what he wanted so he and I decided that I would not sign and accept them. After 3 attempts to get me to pick them up the post office will return them to the sender.

I asked him if he knew what the day was. He said no, and when I told him it was my birthday and that it is my opinion that the OW had planned it so that I would get them on my birthday. I told him that I think she is cruel and a mean-spirited, vicious, controlling b***h,.....He then said I don't disagree with you at all. I told him this was none of her business the goings on between him and I and that she didn't know her place, it is not her choice and control when this happens if it ever does. And furthermore I want her out of my life.

He admitted it is not something he is ready for and that if he had done it it would not have been that way. He said he would have done it in person and had a long talk with me about it first. He has gone on a road trip and said he will be in touch with me to talk.

It was a very bad day....I have not been able to eat or sleep much since.... I guess the day is coming. She is obviously very serious now and she won't put up with a delay. I wonder how he will handle it all. Remember too, it is her Best Friend in the office and she will get a report daily if a signed receipt card comes back or not to my H.

I told my H on the phone the other night that it is not what I want and that I still want him home and that our S12 wants the same. I told him I did not feel a D was right for us. I told him I thought it would be a shame if we D'd based on our feelings for each other. I also added though that I would not contact him and if he wanted to speak to me or see me/us he would have to approach me/us.

I wonder what will happen next....I have not heard from H since Wed. night. We actually talked 3 separate times after 8:30pm.

I really hate this turmoil. If he goes along with her actions, I don't think I will have a choice but to conform (eventually). It will certainly make me think differently about these two people and I don't believe I will have any respect for either one of them... It will be apparent that my H wants to be controlled by this B***H!!! Lately I have been telling people I know that "they make horrible people together". It will cement my actions that she WILL NOT HAVE any contact with my S12.

I have to go for now...something just came up I need to go do...I will write later.

Thank you for listening,

Sanderika