Jimi,

My opinion hasn't changed. I think you need to insist that your wife demonstrate to you that she has told the OM to leave her alone, and that she is committed to trying to work on her marriage, and you need to insist upon no-contact and full transparency. I think these things are ALWAYS a good idea, but particularly in your case, where everything your wife has said and done indicates huge warning bells that she's playing you.

Puppy