This is the part where many standers go off on me but I didn't say move on to a new R. I said "let him go". He is a person, not a possession and he has a mind of his own and will do as he chooses and you have no control over that at all. But you do have to have control over YOU.
Hi Barbie,
Thanks for getting back to me so quickly. This...your advice above is what I am actively working toward. I wish I did not call him last night, but I think I did no harm. I am going back to dark. I am trying to forgive him and I've told him so. I am letting him go. He's really gone now, and I know that.
What I would like to hear are the things you said that you "regret having said," and the things you don't "regret." These specifics will help me more than anything.
