Up - Did you ever just feel like a punching bag? It is punch and heal, punch and heal. And no, I never punched back. He told me this news and I said "okay". Really what can I say? And talking to this woman? If she can't figure out that this is wrong, what could I possibly say to her?
Boundaries? I can't imagine the two of them understanding this concept. But I am going to take my daughters lead on this one - see their reaction, what they are comfortable with and go from there. I do know that H and I talked a couple of years ago about the way this friend treated her BF's children. She wasn't very kind to them - said she hated the kids, etc. I remember even H admitting that he was uncomfortable when she talked about the kids in such a negative way. This will not occur with my children - mark my words.
And, Up, you did help. You posted to me. Thank you.
Dawn - it is so funny what you wrote about not talking to people who have taken H's side. This woman stopped speaking to those who sided with her husband because what he did was so bad (having an affair). Yet, she doesn't appear to see the correlation between my situation and hers.
I just don't want to be involved in this. I worked so hard so that our separation/D were not the hot topic of conversation in our community. I didn't talk about H to others, I was cordial to him - I did whatever I could so once the news was out - it would die quickly. And now this. It is starting up again.
I know that I need time to heal from this latest bomb, but I just don't want to go through this again. I felt like I was doing so well but have now gone back to square one.
