I'm so sorry that I'm not around much but I keep reading.
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I think I know, now, that the "material things" are what he is most concerned about. I see that these are the only things left of our marriage that is important to him.
You're very emotional right now, you may see it in a different light later. Give it some time. I see many things differently now, I wish that back in May when I visited H in our hometown I could detach and accept and let go, and be cheerful, light, happy etc. Instead I've let my emotions get the better of me and the result was H telling me (now) how awful and terrifying our encounter in May was for him. Took me nearly two years to learn my lesson. Well, we all have different timing. I'm very slow, I guess:) My point is: you WILL feel better. You WILL detach. You will get less emotional and you will make it, no matter what. And you will see your H as frightened and confused. And I'm sure you will pay much less attention to whether he's angry or not. Anger stands for weakness and uncertainty. You shall pity HIM for how weak and confused he is. And you are the strong one, of course.
((((((Suzanne))))))
I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
