Millicent, I'm sorry I don't really have any advice for you; I don't have kids, so I don't presume to tell other people what might be best for theirs, but this whole sitch really bites!! I'm so sorry to hear about it. I know what my H's OW looks like from seeing pictures of her on the internet, but have never met her (H wouldn't let me...said he was afraid I'd kill her...who, li'l ol' me? Half her size and a hundred times more fit?...well, apparently he knows me pretty well, 'cause the idea was very tempting for a while!!).
I have stopped talking to certain people unless I have to because they have taken my H's side or betrayed me in some way regarding this sitch, but I'm sure it would be so much more horrible if OW was your close friend before she became OW! What a backstabber! Oh dear, is that too mean? I'm afraid I'm not a very forgiving person, and most people only get one chance with me, although it takes a lot for me to feel that they've blown it. My H is on his third (and, I believe, final) chance now. If one of my friends became OW, that would definitely be their only chance with me!
All I can say is, BREATHE, and remember that sooner or later, this too shall pass.
Blessings and peace, Dawn
Me 45/H 47, no kids Together since 1985; M/1992 Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001 Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues H left 11/24/08 minimal contact, no legal action http://tinyurl.com/DawnHope1
I'm afraid I'm not a very forgiving person, and most people only get one chance with me, although it takes a lot for me to feel that they've blown it. My H is on his third (and, I believe, final) chance now. If one of my friends became OW, that would definitely be their only chance with me!