Hi, well, bless your heart, I agree with you in that you are probably in for a long hard ride. To a WAW, it is all about her. Everything is about her....period. If she says she doesn't miss you when you aren't around, then the friendship and outshining the OM is probably the right route to take.
If this OM is mysterious to her......that is part of her fantasy right there! She wants to find out what makes him tick! She wants to see if she can make him allow her to get close to him and see what the mystery is all about.
So, my suggestion to you is to try to think of some way that you can develop a air of mystery about yourself. That is hard to do when another person, such as your spouse, knows you so well. I think GAL is the way to go with becoming mysterious. You did right by not telling her about your trip and all the details. I think she was wanting to know how to map out her plans with OM while you were gone is the only reason she was asking. You cannot control her actions. Yes, it hurts like hell, but, what can you do? You can't chain her up in a room while you are gone from home. And, yes, I'm sure she is planning to be with OM if possible. If he is serious about her. Do you know if he is or is it more her infatuated with him?
Anyway, the more interesting you can become by changing your appearnace and your lifestyle (to a point) and becoming attractive in not only looks, but behavior, being charming,etc. The more unboring you can be......the more interesting you are to her, so always have something to do. Never appear that you are just laying around the house with nothing to do. Act "as if" you have plans.......it may be nothing more than ride around town, but at least it gets you out of the house and it makes her wonder what you are doing. Always make sure you are dressed really nice and smell good. Have you updated your wardrobe? Maybe you need to do that. Made any physical changes lately?
Well, it's after midnight again....and I have got to get in bed. Hope to hear from you soon and see what your goals are. But, try to get through the book ASAP!
Take care, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
